(I was sick yesterday, so this is Friday’s blog!)
With the last meditation challenge complete, I’m re-listening to the 21-day audio meditation Manifesting True Success from Oprah and Deepak. Yesterday’s was focused on “T” in the acronym SMART: Time.
On the phone with my new goals group this past Sunday, I told them that, while my larger goal is to write a book (details emerging), my relationship with Time must needs be my other focal point for our 6 months together.
“I cram,” I told the ladies. In the last goals group, I would do all the writing the hour before the call and felt like I didn’t get out of the group all I might have. Perhaps by writing a little throughout the week, I could have more time to reflect and therefore more time to evolve.
And, wouldn’t you know, the meditation this week was, “Timing for Success.”
I really liked the reference Deepak made to this categorizing of our daily lives:
- Sleep time: Getting a full night’s restful sleep
- Physical time: Time to move and let my body be active
- Focus time: Being alone for a while to concentrate on what matters to me
- Time in: Time for meditation, prayer, self-reflection
- Time out: Time to simply be here, and rest into existence (How do you like that phrase?!)
- Play time: Time to have fun and enjoy myself
- Connecting time: Intimate private time between me and those I care about.
What strikes me immediately, and pointed out by my therapist many months ago, is that I make little time for Play. What happens in that structure is that I avoid or procrastinate Focus time (and Physical time) because I feel deprived:
If I haven’t done anything fun or creative, I have less in the well. If I have less in the well, large tasks become insurmountable. And so the cycle continues.
“Fun leads to productivity” seems like a strange concept, but for the deprivation addict that I am/have been, it’s key. Because the reverse is true, too: “Productivity leads to fun.” If I don’t put off what must be done, then I don’t feel guilty doing something fun.
When I feel guilty, I procrastinate even my fun! It’s a terrible cycle. So I have to shift to feeding all the parts of my day, and therefore myself. If I want to focus more, I have to play more. If I want to play more, I actually have to focus!
“Eat the frog first,” as they say.
With the new goals group, I hope to have a bit more accountability for my time—for my play time and therefore my accomplishy time.